The act of forgiving is when, if you’ve done something against me, I no longer treat you according to what you’ve done to me.
Below are some personal checkpoints to direct you on your journey of forgiveness.
- I will no longer dwell on this incident of injury.
- I will not bring up this incident again, and use it against you.
- I will not talk to others about this incident.
- I will not allow this incident to stand between us or hinder our relationship.
When I am having a difficult time forgiving someone, with God’s help, I will:
- If necessary, talk with that person to address any unresolved issues and to confirm repentance.
- Renounce the desire to make that person earn my forgiveness, or to demand guarantees that I will never be wronged again.
- Remember how much God has forgiven me, not only in this situation, but also in the past.
- Draw on God’s strength through prayer, Bible study, and, if necessary, Christian counseling.
- Reconciliation: the act of causing two people or groups to become friendly again after an argument or disagreement. Remember the 5 “R’s of Reconciliation?” (Realize, Repent, Restitution, Request and Rethink.)
“He does not treat us as our sins deserve or repay us according to our iniquities. For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him.” -Psalm 103:10-11
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” -1 Corinthians 13:4-8